Who doesn’t love a good daydream? Imagining yourself with feet in the water, cocktail in hand, lying on a white sandy beach. Or maybe yours is getting a massage from Brad Pitt. Of course, it’s usually followed by returning to reality with an unpleasant snap. But……..is it possible that the daydream is actually beneficial? Not […]
Wellbeing – How to Achieve It
Wellbeing is a complex little construct. It encompasses our physical, mental, emotional and social health. We associate it with happiness and life satisfaction. And let’s face it, the idea of it just feels good. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to lie permanently in a state of wellbeing? So how do we do that? There are many […]
How to Make Tough Choices
Jon and I were talking today about the big ‘quality of life’ question. Do you have better quality of life by having more time and working less? Or do you have better quality of life having money and being able to do the things you love in your free time? I guess it was sparked […]
How to Manage the Meh of Covid
Let’s face it – most of us are feeling a little Meh about Covid. We’re locking down, closing borders, wearing masks and having our lives changed in subtle and not so subtle ways. And it looks like there’s no end in sight. Of course we feel a bit Meh sometimes. So here’s a list of […]
The Importance of Kindness
I quite often recommend John Gottman’s Marriage Minute to clients. It’s an email that comes maybe weekly or fortnightly and takes about a minute to read. Very helpful stuff for relationships. One of my clients who subscribed told me about one that I missed about killing it with kindness. Basically, no matter what, be kind […]
You Have 6200 Thoughts a Day – What Will You Do With Yours?
It is official: we have 6200 thoughts a day. A study from Queens University in Ontario measured how often we shifted from one thought to the next (through some very fancy scientific methods that we don’t need to go into here). They called each of these a thought worm. Unfortunately I’m quite visual and now […]
How Happy Are We?
How happy are we? Luckily we can answer this question with actual facts. Australia is the 12th happiest country in the world for the period 2017-2019. Which is pretty impressive. It was based on things like having someone to count on, frequent meetings with friends, having a sense of freedom to make key life decisions, […]
Fundamentals for a Fabulous Life – Generating Good Feelings: The 3:1 Rule
I think most of us at some stage in our lives get a bit of the Eeyore Syndrome. You know the glass is half empty, everything’s gloomy, nothing seems good syndrome. The good news, or the bad news (depending on how far into Eeyore Syndrome you are) is that this is a normal way for […]
You Want to Generate Good Feelings: Stop Being so Nice
Did I read that right? Generating positive feelings is done by NOT being so nice? Mmm. Mmmm. It sure is. I could scare you with a whole bunch of reasons as to why ultra nice people – People Pleasers tend to develop specific sorts of illnesses but I’m not that kind of doctor. I’m more […]
Letting Go of Negative Feelings: Stress Management
Here we are at Fundamental #1: Feeeeeling Good. And we’re still in the letting go phase. This time we’re letting go of stress. Let’s face it – most of us would have a pretty low Stress Management IQ. I mean it’s not exactly on the school curriculum is it? Imagine if it was. Imagine if […]
BONUS: 10 Steps to Taming Your Inner Critic
As Promised your 10 Steps to Taming Your Inner Critic Bonus. The first step in dealing with The Critic is to recognise it for what it is. It is an habitual voice within you, but it’s not you. See if you can hear as the combined voices of all the people in your past that […]
Letting Go of Negative Feelings: Taming the Inner Critic Part 2
We’re still on Fundamental #1: Feeeeeling Good. Jeesh we could take a long time on this Fundamental. I’ll try to speed it up a bit so we get to the good bits sooner. The good news is that today I am going to give a LOT of ways that you can Tame your Inner Critic. […]
10 Simple Steps to Happiness
“Now and then it’s good to pause in the pursuit of happiness and just be happy” – Guillame Apollinaire (French Novelist) So you want to be happy and you try to just let it happen but sometimes it seems too hard to do. What you need are a few simple steps that happy people follow. Firstly, […]
Goal Setting (but not the boring way) Part 2
Have you been caught in this trap? You set goals that you think you should have or that other people would want you to have. And then you can’t work out why you’re not happy when you achieve them? You might have heard that saying “I climbed the ladder to success but it was against […]
Why Vision Boards are NOT Kooky and Why Science says they Create your Success
I’ve always been a bit spiritual – ok a lot spiritual. And a little bit kooky. I was the poster child for the hippy, New Age movement back in the ‘80’s – massaging ‘Essence of Angels’ oil into my hands while singing along to music for Kundalini Yoga. Aaahhh – the good old days. Hang […]
