Good news for anyone thinking they’ll never be successful cos they’re not smart enough or talented enough. It appears that grit is what you actually need to succeed.
Grit is having resilience in the face of failure. It’s having passion for what you’re doing and putting other things aside to pursue your goal. Grit is keeping a single pointed focus in what’s important to you and not straying from the path.
And grit has nothing to do with intelligence, talent, background, luck or anything else you might think you’re missing.
I’m also thinking about grit in terms of therapy. To really change we need to stay focused on what we want. We need to persevere even when it feels really painful. And we need to have resilience when the going gets tough.
Of course this is kinda something we learn in therapy too. But it’s always a good idea to enter therapy with the idea that we’re going to try to be gritty.
I’ve seen a lot of my clients being gritty. They keep coming to sessions even though their natural default mode is to avoid what’s hard. They keep performing new behaviours (we need repetition to change) even though it’s easier to let new learning slide. And they hang in there until they’re finished.
The people who are gritty see the best results and see them quickest.
So if this is how I see grit working in my office, imagine how it works in the real world. Imagine the results you could achieve if you stuck with what you wanted, continuing to focus, sticking with your passion, not giving up.
If you want to know how gritty you really are, here’s a link to the Grit Scale by Angela Duckworth:
https://angeladuckworth.com/grit-scale/
It will also give you a clue as to what you need to develop if you’re not gritty.
If you want to come and work on developing grit then give me a call.