“Everything you ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear” is a fabulous quote by George Addair (also passed on to me by one of my clients). How many times has this been true in your life? That what you want has a great big pile of fear sitting just before it. Fear […]
How Belief in a Just World Can Disempower You
There are a whole heap of fallacies in the world of psychology, one of them being the Just World Fallacy. Basically this says that “you get what you deserve”. So if you’re very very good, very very good things will happen to you. And if you’re bad you’ll be punished. This goes the opposite way […]
Guest Spot – Self-Love, Self-Care and a Little Selfish
I like to support women in business but mostly I like to support women encouraging other women to be their best. Debbie Majella created and founded Door of Youth Skin Care Range (I’ve been using them for over 10 years – I love them). She built the business from the ground up. Debbie has always […]
The Law of Attraction. What’s Good? What’s Bad?
The Law of Attraction has once again risen its head. More people seem to be talking about it. And many people seem to be having the same issues with it. If you’re unfamiliar, the Law of Attraction has been around for quite a while, with the basic concept that raising your ‘vibration’ whether that be […]
An Interesting Perspective on Work
What you may not know, is that the concept of work being our source of meaning and purpose, and the thing we should pour ourselves into it wholeheartedly, is relatively new. It wasn’t that long ago that our job was a means to an end – to provide money for the enjoyment of life outside […]
Keeping Resilient – Covid Style
Here we are knee deep in a pandemic. Who saw that coming? Of course, it has raised all sorts of mental health issues – from anxiety and depression to cabin fever and the negative effects of isolation. I will probably go into those and what to do about them at some stage, but for now […]
Motion vs Action
I was reading Atomic Habits by James Clear last week. There were lots of interesting things but there was one that really struck me – the concept of motion vs action. Basically, when we’re trying to get stuff done, we have 2 processes. Motion is the planning, researching, organising process. And the actual doing of […]
Why You Should Put Important Things First (rocks, pebbles, sand continued)
You might remember the rocks, pebbles, sand story from last time. If you haven’t read it read this 1st https://www.healgrowtransform.com.au/changing-mindsets/best-time-management-tool-for-making-you-happy/ or this won’t make sense. I promised I’d tell you the psychological reasons for making room for rocks first and why we get caught up in the smaller things instead. Firstly, we tend to get […]
Best Time Management Tool for Making You Happy
I have a story for you. “A philosophy professor stands in front of a class with a big glass jar. He puts rocks in the jar, right to the brim. He asks the class if the jar is full. Obviously they answer yes. He then puts pebbles in the jar, jiggles it a bit so […]
Strategies for Personal Growth
If the new year is always a good time to set new goals, then a new decade must be better right! If you’ve been reading my blogs for a while you’ll know that I’m not a fan of New Year’s Resolutions. Research says they’re rubbish and we don’t really stick to them. But…there are other […]
How to Manage Emotions – the Best Way Ever
Managing emotions is one of the most important things in life. It helps in relationships, at work, and how we feel on a daily basis. The more we’re able to recognise, label and modulate our emotions, the more successful we are both socially and at work. Managing emotions, or emotion regulation, is a skill we […]
Build Your Self-Esteem
Sometimes I think we have the world back-to-front. We don’t want to try things until we feel confident to do them. We don’t want to put ourselves out there until our self-esteem is up to handling it. For example, we don’t want to try dating in case we’re rejected. Or we don’t want to try […]
A Step Towards Resilience
There’s no denying that sometimes things can feel overwhelming. And that it can feel like everything is getting on top of you. Or that things are so bad there seems no way out. Or that right now you’re so anxious that nothing could soothe you. We usually have habitual ways of dealing with these uncomfortable […]
HOW TO TALK BETTERER: THE FUNDAMENTALS OF GOOD COMMUNICATION #2
OWN YOUR SH*T or Using “I” Messages So last time we spoke about the importance of being a good listener. If you missed it check it out here. Another super-important communication skill is being a good sender (of the message you want to convey). Just like listening, this is not a skill we’re born with […]
HOW TO TALK BETTERER: THE FUNDAMENTALS OF GOOD COMMUNICATION #1
We assume communicating is something we all should know. We use words and sentences all the time right? We’re speaking the same language. What could possibly go wrong? Well, as you would know, a LOT can go wrong. Communication is a skill. Some of us were lucky enough to grow up in a family that […]
