More and more people are hearing about EMDR and are wanting to change the way they see themselves. When we’re looking at EMDR for this instead of a specific traumatic event, we’re looking at the maladaptive beliefs developed in childhood. Or by another name, our core beliefs. These negative core beliefs often develop via what […]
How to Work WITH Your Nervous System
As you probably know I’m always up for learning. Curiosity is, after all, my number one character strength. If you don’t know your character strengths go to https://www.viacharacter.org/ It’s free. And, to be honest, who doesn’t love knowing more about themself. They also have lots of suggestions on how to use your character strengths to […]
Observations from My Life
Last month we adopted a Chocolate Labrador who had been a victim of the floods in Lismore. He lost his family, his home and all the safety he had known. The poor little guy had to swim to safety while his human family waited to be rescued on the roof of their house. His beloved […]
The Importance of Listening
I totally miscalculated how long my coffee beans would last and I ran out of coffee. The place I buy it from isn’t open on the weekends and with being so busy I wasn’t able to get there. I have had to order takeout coffee since. In the six times I’ve done that, only once […]
Don’t Abandon Yourself
We’re coming into holiday time which can, quite frankly, be pretty stressful. For some, expectations run high and are easily disappointed. For others, it’s time spent with family not often seen (and we’re reminded of why). And yet others, it’s a time where the joy of giving is overpowered by the misery of financial stress. […]
HOW TO TALK BETTERER: THE FUNDAMENTALS OF GOOD COMMUNICATION #2
OWN YOUR SH*T or Using “I” Messages So last time we spoke about the importance of being a good listener. If you missed it check it out here. Another super-important communication skill is being a good sender (of the message you want to convey). Just like listening, this is not a skill we’re born with […]
HOW TO TALK BETTERER: THE FUNDAMENTALS OF GOOD COMMUNICATION #1
We assume communicating is something we all should know. We use words and sentences all the time right? We’re speaking the same language. What could possibly go wrong? Well, as you would know, a LOT can go wrong. Communication is a skill. Some of us were lucky enough to grow up in a family that […]
Who Likes to Talk About Emotions?
Well obviously not men. And while this can be incredibly frustrating for all us women, there are some pretty good reasons for it. For starters our brains are configured differently. Women are geared for chatting and maintaining relationships while doing the gathering part of hunter gatherer. We’re usually the main caregivers for children so we […]
StepMonster
I’ve just had a big family weekend – all the kids at our place. It’s been a while since that happened. Thankfully, I’ve reached the point in my step-parenthood where all the hard work has paid off. So now family gatherings are a source of fun and joy and love. It wasn’t always like that […]
How to Improve Your Relationship (even if your partner isn’t on board)
I would have to say one of the most common issues people come to me with are relationship problems. I have so many people come to me saying they’re down or dissatisfied with life or they should be happy because they seem to have everything but they’re just not. It doesn’t take much digging to […]
M-Minute: Marriage – Building Admiration
Increasing positivity is essential for good relationships. In fact, having a ratio of 5 positive interactions to every negative one is a sign of a good relationship. Here’s a way you can increase the positivity with one easy step.
Introducing the M-Minutes
Hello my friends and welcome to the M-Minutes. In less than a minute I’ll tell you about what the M-Minutes include. Hope you like them
Is the Past Affecting Your Relationships?
Every couple I see tends to underestimate the amount of influence their past has on their current relationship. I even see it in my relationship. And I also see how much pain and confusion past ‘stuff’ causes. It makes sense that you would feel doubt and insecurity if a past partner had cheated on you. […]
How to Have a Happy, Healthy Relationship
There is so much pressure on relationships these days. We work more, have more stress, have less time for each other, we expect more, and are faced with loads of negative messages about how relationships don’t last. It’s no wonder they can be a bit of a struggle sometimes. Fortunately, as life has become more […]
