More and more people are hearing about EMDR and are wanting to change the way they see themselves. When we’re looking at EMDR for this instead of a specific traumatic event, we’re looking at the maladaptive beliefs developed in childhood. Or by another name, our core beliefs. These negative core beliefs often develop via what […]
The 5 Types of Imposter Syndrome
If you haven’t read a general overview of Imposter Syndrome you can find it here https://www.healgrowtransform.com.au/psychology-articles/do-you-ever-feel-like-youre-an-imposter/. Today I’m going to talk about the 5 different types of Imposter Syndrome. I found it quite helpful to understand the different categories. I listened to an audiobook “The Imposter Solution” by Cassandra Dunn. While she was giving the […]
Do You Ever Feel Like You’re an Imposter?
No doubt you’ve heard of Imposter Syndrome and have possibly even felt you’ve had it on occasion. You know, times when you’ve felt that everyone will find out that you’re not up to scratch. That you’re not as smart as other people and you’re going to be found out. I went to uni with a […]
Reaching the F*ck It Zone
I have to say, when I see someone reach the F*ck It Zone, I find myself very pleased. This is the zone where people say “F*ck it, I am so over being a people pleaser” or “F*ck it. I’m sick of this anxiety stopping me from living my life” or whatever it is that particular […]
How to Work WITH Your Nervous System
As you probably know I’m always up for learning. Curiosity is, after all, my number one character strength. If you don’t know your character strengths go to https://www.viacharacter.org/ It’s free. And, to be honest, who doesn’t love knowing more about themself. They also have lots of suggestions on how to use your character strengths to […]
The Science of Life
If you’ve been to my office you would have noticed that I share my space with the lovely Toni – Ayurvedic therapist. Some of you have even been to see her. I find myself quite envious when people come out of a treatment with bones like jelly because they’re so relaxed. I often hear things […]
A Theory of Grieving
There’s a good chance you’ve heard of Elizabeth Kubler Ross and the 5 stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) theory. She basically put grief theory on the map and got people talking about it. Since this one, there have been many more, with the theories moving more towards tasks to complete in the […]
I have Moved – and what you need to know
Yes, after 16 years of being a psychologist in Miami I have moved offices and am now a psychologist in Kingscliff. I was unable to get an exemption to cross into QLD without having to quarantine. As with any change there are good and bad aspects. The bad: obviously leaving my friends behind at Miami […]
How Happy Are We?
How happy are we? Luckily we can answer this question with actual facts. Australia is the 12th happiest country in the world for the period 2017-2019. Which is pretty impressive. It was based on things like having someone to count on, frequent meetings with friends, having a sense of freedom to make key life decisions, […]
Good News for Worriers
If you’re a worrier, you’ll know it isn’t much fun. Always wondering what can go wrong. And having that dreaded ‘what if….’ question racking your brain constantly. And then there’s that no-one seems to get it. “Why are you even thinking about that?” they’ll ask. So it doesn’t seem like Mother Nature did us much […]
Move Over New Year’s Resolutions. Here’s Something that Works
I love to steal good ideas from people. Unfortunately my integrity stops me from claiming them as my own or you would all think I’m brilliant by now. This particular idea came hot on the heels of talk about New Year’s Resolutions. I’m not sure if you’ve read my previous blogs on New Year’s Resolutions […]
Is My Partner Right for Me?
Relationships are some of the trickiest things ever! You have two people (who may as well be from different planets) trying to build a life together that involves negotiating all their differences, beliefs and values. No wonder it’s such hard work. To top it off, at the beginning of a relationship, our brain is on […]
How Do You Motivate Yourself? Stick or Carrot?
Let’s face it, change is hard in any setting and especially hard when it comes to changing ourselves. We often start with grand ideas of who we’d like to become, how much weight we’d like to lose, how much happier we’d like to be, but that soon disappears into a puddle of anti-motivation. Mostly because […]
Could Your Physical Health be Affecting Your Mental Health?
I don’t know how many times people have come to me feeling down and anxious, with little enthusiasm for life and it turns out they have Adrenal Fatigue or Pyrole Disorder or something equally unheard of by your regular GP’s. There’s also a whole heap of research coming out about the microbiome – the universe […]
Ubuntu
It’s a running joke that my partner the ‘scientist’ cites Facebook as the authority on all things. “Of course it’s true – I saw it on Facebook.” Anyway, this time he told me about something he’d seen on there that I don’t really care if it’s true or not, mainly because it’s so lovely and […]
