I think most of us at some stage in our lives get a bit of the Eeyore Syndrome. You know the glass is half empty, everything’s gloomy, nothing seems good syndrome. The good news, or the bad news (depending on how far into Eeyore Syndrome you are) is that this is a normal way for […]
You Want to Generate Good Feelings: Stop Being so Nice
Did I read that right? Generating positive feelings is done by NOT being so nice? Mmm. Mmmm. It sure is. I could scare you with a whole bunch of reasons as to why ultra nice people – People Pleasers tend to develop specific sorts of illnesses but I’m not that kind of doctor. I’m more […]
Letting Go of Negative Feelings: Stress Management
Here we are at Fundamental #1: Feeeeeling Good. And we’re still in the letting go phase. This time we’re letting go of stress. Let’s face it – most of us would have a pretty low Stress Management IQ. I mean it’s not exactly on the school curriculum is it? Imagine if it was. Imagine if […]
BONUS: 10 Steps to Taming Your Inner Critic
As Promised your 10 Steps to Taming Your Inner Critic Bonus. The first step in dealing with The Critic is to recognise it for what it is. It is an habitual voice within you, but it’s not you. See if you can hear as the combined voices of all the people in your past that […]
Letting Go of Negative Feelings: Taming the Inner Critic Part 2
We’re still on Fundamental #1: Feeeeeling Good. Jeesh we could take a long time on this Fundamental. I’ll try to speed it up a bit so we get to the good bits sooner. The good news is that today I am going to give a LOT of ways that you can Tame your Inner Critic. […]
10 Simple Steps to Happiness
“Now and then it’s good to pause in the pursuit of happiness and just be happy” – Guillame Apollinaire (French Novelist) So you want to be happy and you try to just let it happen but sometimes it seems too hard to do. What you need are a few simple steps that happy people follow. Firstly, […]
Goal Setting (but not the boring way) Part 2
Have you been caught in this trap? You set goals that you think you should have or that other people would want you to have. And then you can’t work out why you’re not happy when you achieve them? You might have heard that saying “I climbed the ladder to success but it was against […]
Why Vision Boards are NOT Kooky and Why Science says they Create your Success
I’ve always been a bit spiritual – ok a lot spiritual. And a little bit kooky. I was the poster child for the hippy, New Age movement back in the ‘80’s – massaging ‘Essence of Angels’ oil into my hands while singing along to music for Kundalini Yoga. Aaahhh – the good old days. Hang […]
Goal Setting (but not the boring way) Part 1.
Did you know that having goals makes us happy? I love being happy so I like to set myself some goals at the beginning of each year and keep updating them as the year progresses. Not all my goals are serious, work related, financial or hard work (although a few of them are). Some of […]
Brain, Brain Go Away. Come Again When You’re Ready to Play
You know the feeling. You just can’t seem to switch your brain off. No matter what you do. It’s think, think, think, think all day long. And more often than not it’s not very helpful thinking. I mean it’s not like we’re thinking of our last holiday or anything else that would generate good feelings. […]
Letting Go of Negative Feelings: Taming the Inner Critic
Did you know that there are 2 places that the Inner critic lives in our brain? Most other things only have one living area. No wonder it’s so powerful. And no wonder we can’t shut it up. Shutting it up is one of the fundamentals of one of the Five Fundamentals for a Fabulous Life. […]
Letting Go of Negative Feelings: Brain Science, Negativity, and Fear
There are basically Five Fundamentals for a Fabulous Life: Feeling Good Getting in the Flow Really Relating Having Meaning and Purpose Achievement and Success Today we’re starting with #1: Feeling good. You might think feeling good should start with ways to have fun, laugh more, get healthy, and be optimistic. And yep……all that comes into […]
Five Fundamentals for a Fabulous Life
I’ve been really blessed on my journey through life. I’ve had enough bad stuff to keep me stretching to grow and enough good stuff to make it all worthwhile. I think you could say it all adds up to be ….well…..fabulous! One of the things that I’ve learnt along the way is that there are […]
Perfectionism: Part 2
Today I’m going to tell you more about Perfection Paralysis. When you live with the lovely Neurotic Perfectionism nothing is ever good enough and you feel like if “it’s” not good enough then neither are you. If you don’t get it right first time then you’re a failure at it. If you fail at something […]
Perfectionism
I had a call this morning with one of my beautiful clients – and yes – they’re all beautiful. Problem was – she’d developed Perfection Paralysis. Yep – a very technical term – you’ll find it in all the ……ok in none of the serious psychological texts – but it should be. Perfection Paralysis stops […]
