If the new year is always a good time to set new goals, then a new decade must be better right! If you’ve been reading my blogs for a while you’ll know that I’m not a fan of New Year’s Resolutions. Research says they’re rubbish and we don’t really stick to them. But…there are other […]
Don’t Abandon Yourself
We’re coming into holiday time which can, quite frankly, be pretty stressful. For some, expectations run high and are easily disappointed. For others, it’s time spent with family not often seen (and we’re reminded of why). And yet others, it’s a time where the joy of giving is overpowered by the misery of financial stress. […]
How to Have More Self-Acceptance
It’s a sad state of affairs when so many of us struggle with self-acceptance. We’re critical of this part of ourselves – this body part, that aspect of our personality. We don’t like ourselves when we do that behaviour – get loud, tell white lies. Worst of all, for some people, there’s a complete lack […]
How to Manage Emotions – the Best Way Ever
Managing emotions is one of the most important things in life. It helps in relationships, at work, and how we feel on a daily basis. The more we’re able to recognise, label and modulate our emotions, the more successful we are both socially and at work. Managing emotions, or emotion regulation, is a skill we […]
How to be More Grounded
I’ll be honest – I love this sh*t where science catches up to spiritual. Where stuff other cultures have been doing for eons suddenly changes from ‘eye rolling kooky’ to ‘latest medical breakthrough’. And here’s one that totally fits that bill. There are many ancient cultures that have used the energy of the earth for […]
How Do You Want to be Remembered?
It would be very rare to be someone that hasn’t lost someone close. I guess I’m getting to that age when death comes knocking for lots of people I know. Among other things, it has had me thinking about how I’d like to be remembered. And what I want my remaining years to be like. […]
What’s Your Story Morning Glory?
We make a story about everything we encounter. It’s how our brains work. It’s how we make sense of things. And it’s not always accurate. Our brains are really good at either filling in blanks (with little or no evidence to support our supplied missing pieces) or focusing on some aspects of what happened and […]
What Are You Willing to Give Up to Be Happy?
So often we try to ‘do’ things to make us happier. We do positive thinking exercises. We do gratitude diaries. We do meditation. What if we had to stop doing? What if there were things we were doing in our lives that were making us unhappy and all we had to do was make a […]
How to Get Off the Negative Wheel
Have you ever been stuck in a big negative loop? Where you feel bad about something and the more you think about it the more reasons you find to keep you feeling bad? If you have you’re not alone. But is it really necessary and can we do something to get us off that negative […]
Build Your Self-Esteem
Sometimes I think we have the world back-to-front. We don’t want to try things until we feel confident to do them. We don’t want to put ourselves out there until our self-esteem is up to handling it. For example, we don’t want to try dating in case we’re rejected. Or we don’t want to try […]
A Step Towards Resilience
There’s no denying that sometimes things can feel overwhelming. And that it can feel like everything is getting on top of you. Or that things are so bad there seems no way out. Or that right now you’re so anxious that nothing could soothe you. We usually have habitual ways of dealing with these uncomfortable […]
A Genuine ‘Make You Happy’ Tool
I was very generously gifted a book – The Magic by Rhonda Byrne (of ‘The Secret’ fame) before I went on long service leave. I have to admit it took me a few weeks before I picked it up. I remember all the hype about ‘The Secret’ – people becoming all sorts of disgruntled because […]
HOW TO TALK BETTERER: THE FUNDAMENTALS OF GOOD COMMUNICATION #2
OWN YOUR SH*T or Using “I” Messages So last time we spoke about the importance of being a good listener. If you missed it check it out here. Another super-important communication skill is being a good sender (of the message you want to convey). Just like listening, this is not a skill we’re born with […]
The Joys of Being Naughty
When was the last time you were naughty? You know – the cheeky, sneaky, deliciously childish naughty? If your answer is “ages ago” then I’m going to set you a challenge of being a bit naughty. We all have an inner child who wants to play. Or an inner rebel who wants to cast off […]
Change: How to Adjust Your Expectations for a Better Outcome
I’ve had a lot of people lately going through career change. We talk about how to navigate the process and expectations. And we talk about how it takes a long time to settle in to something new. It got me thinking: I reckon all change is like that. So I’m going to share what I […]
