More and more people are hearing about EMDR and are wanting to change the way they see themselves. When we’re looking at EMDR for this instead of a specific traumatic event, we’re looking at the maladaptive beliefs developed in childhood. Or by another name, our core beliefs. These negative core beliefs often develop via what […]
Everything You Want is on the Other Side of Fear
“Everything you ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear” is a fabulous quote by George Addair (also passed on to me by one of my clients). How many times has this been true in your life? That what you want has a great big pile of fear sitting just before it. Fear […]
The Circle of Tolerance And Boiled Frogs
Have you heard the story of the boiled frog? If you put a frog in boiling water it will jump out straight away. If you put the same frog in water and slowly bring it to the boil, it doesn’t notice the increasing temperature and will boil to death. I’m not sure how true that […]
Do You Ever Feel Like You’re an Imposter?
No doubt you’ve heard of Imposter Syndrome and have possibly even felt you’ve had it on occasion. You know, times when you’ve felt that everyone will find out that you’re not up to scratch. That you’re not as smart as other people and you’re going to be found out. I went to uni with a […]
Do You Ever Feel Unworthy? You Need to Read This
As you can imagine, my job is filled with heartwarming moments. People working through something difficult and coming out better on the other side, changing behaviours that change their lives, finding love after a loveless childhood….. And then of course there are the changes that happen with EMDR. I must have been doing it for […]
Do You Sh*t Talk Yourself?
So if you sh*t talk yourself then there’s a very good chance that your self-esteem needs a tweak. When your self-esteem is lower than it should be, you tend to: think negative things about yourself (and believe them), say some pretty mean sh*t to yourself (to the point that if I ask a client to […]
Reaching the F*ck It Zone
I have to say, when I see someone reach the F*ck It Zone, I find myself very pleased. This is the zone where people say “F*ck it, I am so over being a people pleaser” or “F*ck it. I’m sick of this anxiety stopping me from living my life” or whatever it is that particular […]
Not a Daydreamer? You Should Be
Who doesn’t love a good daydream? Imagining yourself with feet in the water, cocktail in hand, lying on a white sandy beach. Or maybe yours is getting a massage from Brad Pitt. Of course, it’s usually followed by returning to reality with an unpleasant snap. But……..is it possible that the daydream is actually beneficial? Not […]
Tried Meditation. Can’t Do It
Does this sound familiar? I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve asked if a client has tried meditation and this is what I get: Tried it (once). Can’t do it. My mind is too busy to meditate. I couldn’t shut my brain off. It doesn’t work for me. On the surface these look […]
How to Work WITH Your Nervous System
As you probably know I’m always up for learning. Curiosity is, after all, my number one character strength. If you don’t know your character strengths go to https://www.viacharacter.org/ It’s free. And, to be honest, who doesn’t love knowing more about themself. They also have lots of suggestions on how to use your character strengths to […]
An Interesting Perspective on Work
What you may not know, is that the concept of work being our source of meaning and purpose, and the thing we should pour ourselves into it wholeheartedly, is relatively new. It wasn’t that long ago that our job was a means to an end – to provide money for the enjoyment of life outside […]
Observations from My Life
Last month we adopted a Chocolate Labrador who had been a victim of the floods in Lismore. He lost his family, his home and all the safety he had known. The poor little guy had to swim to safety while his human family waited to be rescued on the roof of their house. His beloved […]
Wellbeing – How to Achieve It
Wellbeing is a complex little construct. It encompasses our physical, mental, emotional and social health. We associate it with happiness and life satisfaction. And let’s face it, the idea of it just feels good. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to lie permanently in a state of wellbeing? So how do we do that? There are many […]
Welcome to 2022 – Meaning and Inspiration
Just as we thought we were heading into a reasonable ‘new normal’ with fewer restrictions and more freedoms we get hit with this ‘new normal’ which is frankly, a bit shit. I went from not knowing anyone in my personal life who had covid to wondering who doesn’t have it. That’s an exaggeration of course […]
How Would You Spend Your Time?
My partner, Jon, is reading a book about time. Time is an interesting thing. It is a completely non-renewable resource. Once we’ve used it we can never get it back. So we have to think about using it wisely. And by wise, I do not necessarily mean sensible. But I’ll get to that later. In […]
