More and more people are hearing about EMDR and are wanting to change the way they see themselves. When we’re looking at EMDR for this instead of a specific traumatic event, we’re looking at the maladaptive beliefs developed in childhood. Or by another name, our core beliefs. These negative core beliefs often develop via what […]
Everything You Want is on the Other Side of Fear
“Everything you ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear” is a fabulous quote by George Addair (also passed on to me by one of my clients). How many times has this been true in your life? That what you want has a great big pile of fear sitting just before it. Fear […]
How Belief in a Just World Can Disempower You
There are a whole heap of fallacies in the world of psychology, one of them being the Just World Fallacy. Basically this says that “you get what you deserve”. So if you’re very very good, very very good things will happen to you. And if you’re bad you’ll be punished. This goes the opposite way […]
Do You Ever Feel Unworthy? You Need to Read This
As you can imagine, my job is filled with heartwarming moments. People working through something difficult and coming out better on the other side, changing behaviours that change their lives, finding love after a loveless childhood….. And then of course there are the changes that happen with EMDR. I must have been doing it for […]
Do You Sh*t Talk Yourself?
So if you sh*t talk yourself then there’s a very good chance that your self-esteem needs a tweak. When your self-esteem is lower than it should be, you tend to: think negative things about yourself (and believe them), say some pretty mean sh*t to yourself (to the point that if I ask a client to […]
Reaching the F*ck It Zone
I have to say, when I see someone reach the F*ck It Zone, I find myself very pleased. This is the zone where people say “F*ck it, I am so over being a people pleaser” or “F*ck it. I’m sick of this anxiety stopping me from living my life” or whatever it is that particular […]
The New Way to Start the New Year
I was chatting with my neighbour yesterday. She said to me “I’m not buying in to all this pressure to start the year perfectly and have all my goals in order with too many things to achieve.” She already had me nodding – “Good plan” I was thinking. The she said “I’m going to give […]
Guest Spot – Mindful Eating
We’re lucky enough to have the lovely Amanda Clark do a guest post for us today. She’s provided a video (about 8 minutes so easy to fit in to your schedule) that gives you the tools you need to really enjoy your food and not overindulge. You probably know that I’m quite the fan of […]
The Law of Attraction. What’s Good? What’s Bad?
The Law of Attraction has once again risen its head. More people seem to be talking about it. And many people seem to be having the same issues with it. If you’re unfamiliar, the Law of Attraction has been around for quite a while, with the basic concept that raising your ‘vibration’ whether that be […]
Not a Daydreamer? You Should Be
Who doesn’t love a good daydream? Imagining yourself with feet in the water, cocktail in hand, lying on a white sandy beach. Or maybe yours is getting a massage from Brad Pitt. Of course, it’s usually followed by returning to reality with an unpleasant snap. But……..is it possible that the daydream is actually beneficial? Not […]
Tried Meditation. Can’t Do It
Does this sound familiar? I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve asked if a client has tried meditation and this is what I get: Tried it (once). Can’t do it. My mind is too busy to meditate. I couldn’t shut my brain off. It doesn’t work for me. On the surface these look […]
An Interesting Perspective on Work
What you may not know, is that the concept of work being our source of meaning and purpose, and the thing we should pour ourselves into it wholeheartedly, is relatively new. It wasn’t that long ago that our job was a means to an end – to provide money for the enjoyment of life outside […]
The Benefits of Developing a Single Minded Focus
I have to admit a single minded focus is not my strong point. I’m more of a “ooh look – shiny new thing” kinda girl. I like to call that ‘curiosity and openness to experience’ on a good day and ‘magpie syndrome’ on a not so good day. What has come to my attention recently […]
Wellbeing – How to Achieve It
Wellbeing is a complex little construct. It encompasses our physical, mental, emotional and social health. We associate it with happiness and life satisfaction. And let’s face it, the idea of it just feels good. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to lie permanently in a state of wellbeing? So how do we do that? There are many […]
Welcome to 2022 – Meaning and Inspiration
Just as we thought we were heading into a reasonable ‘new normal’ with fewer restrictions and more freedoms we get hit with this ‘new normal’ which is frankly, a bit shit. I went from not knowing anyone in my personal life who had covid to wondering who doesn’t have it. That’s an exaggeration of course […]
