How many times have you said to yourself “I’d feel better/ have better relationships/ be thinner/ be happier/not be depressed/ have more friends if I didn’t have low self-esteem’. We make self-esteem responsible for a LOT of things. And in some ways it is. And in some ways it’s not. Bullies tend to score very […]
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How Belief in a Just World Can Disempower You
There are a whole heap of fallacies in the world of psychology, one of them being the Just World Fallacy. Basically this says that “you get what you deserve”. So if you’re very very good, very very good things will happen to you. And if you’re bad you’ll be punished. This goes the opposite way […]
The Importance of Kindness
I quite often recommend John Gottman’s Marriage Minute to clients. It’s an email that comes maybe weekly or fortnightly and takes about a minute to read. Very helpful stuff for relationships. One of my clients who subscribed told me about one that I missed about killing it with kindness. Basically, no matter what, be kind […]
How to Have More Self-Acceptance
It’s a sad state of affairs when so many of us struggle with self-acceptance. We’re critical of this part of ourselves – this body part, that aspect of our personality. We don’t like ourselves when we do that behaviour – get loud, tell white lies. Worst of all, for some people, there’s a complete lack […]
Self-Talk Your Way to Self-Esteem
Language is powerful. Stories are meaningful. What we say to, and about, ourselves is incredibly influential. And that language and those stories are mostly influential on how we feel about ourselves. If we use negative self-talk we’re writing a story of ourselves as someone less than. Less worthy. Less capable. Less likeable. Less everything. Eventually […]
Attitude of Gratitude
To be honest, I’ve had a few things happening recently that have driven me back to using all my positive psychology skills on myself. I’ve been practicing my mindfulness, using my 3:1 positive to negative thoughts, using self-compassion, doing things that make me feel connected to something greater than myself (nature, spiritual practices like yoga) […]
